Myths about Bi+ identities are more than just misconceptions — they are stereotypes rooted in monosexual privilege, ignorance, and hetero-cisnormative culture. These myths restrict self-expression and can seriously impact the mental and physical health of bi+ people.
Today – Bi+ Visibility Day – we unmask them.
Myth 1: “Bi+ people are indecisive”
Reality: Being bi+ does not mean being indecisive. Feeling attraction toward more than one gender is not hesitation, but simply a wider spectrum of desire.
This myth diminishes bi+ identities and frames them as “incomplete.” Associating bi+ people with indecision stems only from misunderstanding and stereotypes.
Myth 2: “Being bi+ has to be 50/50”
Reality: Many believe that being bisexual means equal attraction — 50% to women and 50% to men. This is completely untrue. A bi+ person may feel stronger attraction to one gender than another, or their attraction may shift over time. This never makes their identity less valid.
Myth 3: “Being bi+ is just a phase”
Reality: This stereotype denies the existence of bi+ identities, treating them as temporary or “not real.” It is one of the most harmful myths. People may learn more about themselves over time, but that does not mean bi+ identities are invalid.
Myth 4: “Bi+ people are more likely to cheat”
Reality: Cheating is not about orientation — it is about personal choices and agreements within relationships. Being bi+ simply means the capacity to feel sexual and emotional interest in more than one gender, and this has nothing to do with faithfulness.
This myth comes from fetishization of bi+ identities. The idea that “they have more options, so they won’t stay loyal” undermines trust and disrespects bi+ people. In reality, they can and do build loving, committed, long-term relationships like anyone else.
Myth 5: “One partner is never enough for bi+ people”
Reality: This stereotype turns bi+ people into sexual objects. Monogamy and polyamory exist across all orientations. Being bi+ does not mean wanting multiple partners at once. Labeling them as “overly sexual” is just another form of stigma.
Myth 6: “If someone has only dated the opposite gender, they’re not really bi+”
Reality: Sexual orientation is not measured by experience. Whether or not someone has had relationships does not define their identity. Feelings and attractions are enough.
This myth silences many people, sending the message: “If you haven’t proven it, your identity doesn’t count.” But orientation is internal — it does not need external validation.
Myth 7: “Bi+ people just want attention”
Reality: Coming out as bi+ is never easy. In a hetero-cisnormative world, simply saying “I’m bi+” can expose someone to discrimination. This is not about seeking attention — it is about existing as one’s true self.
Myth 8: “Bi+ people will end up with men anyway”
Reality: This patriarchal stereotype harms both bi+ women and bi+ men. Women are often told they’ll “go back to men eventually,” while men are labeled “secretly gay.”
Society tends to give men more “value.” A woman dating another woman is often not seen as “serious,” but if she dates a man, it’s considered “real” or “final.” This attitude diminishes women’s relationships and frames men as the ultimate “prize.” In reality, every bi+ person’s choices and relationships are valid, regardless of gender.
